Where attention goes…. energy flows
Written by, Mary Ann Farmer, EdS LPC NCC CCTP CH BCB BCN
December 10, 2020
I recall as a child watching cartoons on a Saturday morning and laughing at the cartoon character who struggled while having a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other telling them what to do. As a licensed professional counselor who specializes in neurofeedback, it struck me the other day when I was looking at a diagram of the Left and Right Dorsolateral Prefrontal Cortex and their functions just how true this is. The right prefrontal cortex informs behavioral inhibition, avoidance, and emotion regulation whereas the left prefrontal cortex informs behavioral activation, approach, and emotion regulation and the anterior cingulate cortex informs discrepancy detection, and behavioral inhibition.
It amazes me how tiny changes in electrical signals within the brain define who we are as a person and I wonder how our environment shapes those electrical signal changes. And let me tell you it scares me to think just how much the environment of the year 2020 has negatively impacted us all. More importantly I am amazed at how technology is allowing us to have some semblance of control over making the changes in the direction we choose. And that my friends are what neurofeedback, transcranial direct current stimulation, cranial electrical stimulation and audio-visual entrainment can provide for you and all without medication.
Now, back to that devil and angel on my shoulder. I am wondering how the devil we call the year 2020 has negatively impacted our humanity towards one another and more importantly I am wondering how we can rebuild love, patience, kindness and understanding.
Instead of……..how about
Instead of they harmed my loved one how about Covid 19 harmed my loved one
Instead of they don’t care because blah, blah, blah how about they don’t understand
Instead of they should have blah, blah, blah how about they are doing the best they can under the circumstances
Instead of they shouldn’t have blah, blah, blah how about what can I do to help
Instead of they are wrong and I am right how about seeking to truly understand one another
Instead of they must believe what I believe how about tolerance and celebration of our differences and yes even the differences you do not agree with
Instead of it has to be black or white/this or that how about a little tolerance for ambiguity, uncertainty and those inevitable grey areas in life
Instead of lashing out in anger, hatred and destruction how about kindness, love and peace
Instead of focusing on division how about focusing on what unites us
Our brains and our personality are always being shaped and modified by our experiences or the energy we feed it via our focus. We do not have control over what is going on in the world but we do have control over where we set our attention, intention and our responses. The point is that we would all benefit personally from a little less anger, indignation and righteousness and a little more compassion.